Working out what to get a loved one for Christmas can be difficult, as you want to make sure it’s the perfect present.
One woman knew exactly what to get her boyfriend when the holiday season rolled around, as he’d mentioned it previously.
Her partner was keen to try one of the at home DNA testing kits, so she bought one for him.
The gift arrived, she got it all ready and wrapped, but then a massive family secret emerged and she soon discovered that the kit probably wasn’t the right thing to give him after all.
The unnamed woman revealed all in a post on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.
She explained how she told her boyfriend’s mum about the kit and was stunned by her reaction.
“As soon as I mentioned the DNA test, she went completely pale and started to fidget,” she wrote.
“She said ‘Oh boy. That makes me nervous. You might have to wait on that gift, maybe until his birthday. His dad and I have to talk.'”
Understandably, these comments freaked the woman out but she later would learn why she couldn’t give him the test.
His mum soon confessed that her ex-husband wasn’t actually the father of her two sons.
He’d been unable to have children, so they’d had to use a sperm donor to start a family.
The woman felt burdened, knowing this big secret before her boyfriend did and confronted his mum, saying she had to tell him the truth soon.
“I don’t feel right keeping this info from him,” she said. “She mentioned his birthday, which isn’t until July.
“I’m thinking they should tell him before the new year, because there won’t ever be a good time. He’s 24, they had plenty of years to find a good time.”
The woman then asked her fellow Reddit users for some advice on whether she would be an a**hole if she told his mum she had to tell him by a certain date.
She added: “I’m extremely stressed and he can already tell something is bothering me, and is starting to get frustrated that I won’t talk about it.”
A number of people replied, agreeing that the woman wasn’t in the wrong.
One person wrote: “Thank goodness this came up before you gave him the DNA kit. You’re right there will never really be a good time now, his mum has definitely left it too late.”
Another commented: “Talk to the mom first and explain that she’s putting you in a very unfair position that’s negatively affecting your relationship.”
A third thought the mum shouldn’t have ever said anything to her son’s girlfriend and gone away to deal with it privately with her ex.
However there were some people that thought the girlfriend was in the wrong and should just stay out of it.
A different user replied: “Do not give the DNA kit now. This is not your battle to fight, passively or otherwise.
“Do NOT interfere here.”